I was just sitting processing my thoughts and it hit me how when us girls are being taught about relationships, the first thing is protect yourself and your heart. However, I am under the impression that if that was God’s plan He wouldn’t have told us to love our enemies cause that’s just too close a proximity to the enemy and the destroyer of all that is good in my life.
But anyways, it just made me imagine what I would tell my own daughter from all I’ve learned and all I am yet to experience. I know I am still young and can’t fully quantify or even qualify any of my thoughts but here and now, until I am proven otherwise by God, in this moment here’s my two cents worth.
If I could write a letter to my daughter, I’d tell her of the best kind of life
The one that is filled with confidence, security, faith, hope, and joy that unwinds on a street called love. I’d teach her to protect herself but not in the way we’ve been taught. Because I remember being told, “be careful Melissa, men are this and men are that” however, I don’t remember God telling me to love people for who they are instead as He has loved me I am to love as well.
That means with a love that does not judge that does not point fingers or condemn. I believe when you love, you feel worthy of something and good about yourself. But when you live trying to protect yourself, you risk letting life pass you by and you become vulnerable, questioning your worth. I don’t want my baby living in that kind of bondage. Don’t protect your self so much that you feel unworthy of love, instead love and lead your heart in love.
That being said, if I could teach my daughter about relationships she’d get to share not just romantically, I’d teach her to love for God is love and we are to follow suit. I’d tell her to be considerate of others and in so doing it would determine how she carries herself, how she relates with others, not loosing who she is but when you live a life of love, you become love personified and when you love others for who they are there is no way you wont love who you are for you would appreciate the diversity and the magnanimity of who God is.
I’d teach her to see that from the way she loves others, it would bring her respect, she would be a mystery in the eyes of others and would silently determine the way others treat her. Because lets face it no matter how demented a person is, they naturally reciprocate love when love is given. Plus it is said true love never returns to you void. Don’t go around with a lot of hate and anger in your heart, that which is only there due to the hurt others.
The love in your heart will teach you the difference between a good man and scum.
When the time comes for her to choose a partner, I’d help her see that all her love would pay off for her partner won’t only be enchanted by the beauty on the outside but the one that radiates from within as well. I’d tell her to love but only when the time is right, as there is a time for everything under the sun. And when that times comes for her to be the girlfriend leading to fiancé leading to wife, I’d teach her to honor her man, I’d teach that submission isn’t giving up who you are but being who you were created to be. I’d teach her the power that she has as a woman; that God saying be submissive isn’t a trap rather it empowers you to be the epitome of who a woman should be. I’d teach her that if she would love and embrace the power that’s given to her, she would go down in history as one of those women that was the strength behind her husband that she made him complete. I mean that was the intention in the first place right, for Eve to Complete Adam. For I have learned that men never really have security and complete confidence till they have a good woman who loves, respects and submits that way she empowers him and a man empowered can conquer the world. For a man who has such a woman, a wife, values her and loves her more than himself.
If I could leave her with one word I’d say don’t protect you to find love instead, love and everything else will follow. For really who would want to hurt love???
Yes love is hard, sometimes painful and could make you go insane but it is that way so you could be better, and have joy that is everlasting not happiness that comes and goes. And don’t forget to let your love grow. Love was Jesus Christ stretched out on the cross when u live a life of love your husband will love you as Christ loved the church.
I pray that the love I share with your father is proof enough that love conquers ALL!
P.s. I am not saying that there aren’t bad people to stay away from I’m just saying your guard shouldn’t be so high that it is even impossible for someone else to love you.
